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Your Net Worth

Do you know your net worth right now?  Can you give me an accurate assessment of all your fiscal assets?

Bet you could at least “ballpark’ it…

Well, I’m here to tell you your net worth might be quite substantial, but it doesn’t matter. That fancy car, big house, expensive clothing…doesn’t matter.

What matters is your personal worth, your intrinsic value.

Check that….what matters is your REALIZATION of your intrinsic value.

What’s interesting here, and what’s unlike your paycheck, is this value cannot be earned, it cannot be multiplied and it’s the same for everyone.

As a recovering workaholic, this was and still is, an insight that constantly unfolds for me.  I knew a lot of my self image centered around the jobs I held, the authority I wielded and the income I garnered.  All superficial and all externally driven, by the way..  I just had no idea how much of my self image was wrapped up in this. 

Translation:  I totally gave away my power to outside sources.  And I mean TOTALLY.

Having a high-level job and making a lot of money was more important than my enjoyment of the job and my self care.  [what’s self care?]

So I sacrificed and sacrificed and guess what?  People cared for about 5 minutes, and then it was forgotten.  Except by me.  I got resentful. Seething, in fact.   However, I never admitted my anger to anyone, least of all myself. 

And why would I?  That wasn’t what I learned.  I learned self care was selfish.  Choosing yourself is wrong, and you must be punished.

Fast forward to 2013, and this is what I’m working on now – discovering my intrinsic value and how to practice self care.  Problem is, I still carry the belief that it is selfish, and therefore, I need to be punished.

Folks, that is pure shame talking, the EXACT OPPOSITE of a gloriously high intrinsic value.  [which is what we all come in to this world with.]

News Flash: NO ONE CAN TAKE YOUR VALUE AWAY.  No one has that power.  If you feel crappy, it’s cuz you GAVE it away.

Now don’t get mad at yourself, and don’t blame “the other guy” for this. Everyone is doing their best, whether we like it or not.  Everyone.  Including you, when you gave it away.  Including the other guy, when he took it.

There’s a simple solution. TAKE IT BACK.

The good news is no one “used it up”.  It doesn’t work that way, Peaches. It may have been “relocated” for a bit, but you can call it back anytime you want.  It’s all there, 100%, waiting for you. 

[Here’s a little known secret:  the other guy may take what you gave him, BUT HE CAN’T USE IT.   He can use his, but he can’t use yours.]

The bad news is we think we need to earn it back and we don’t know how to do that.

Which brings us back full circle to self care.  Loving kindness. It starts there.  It ends there.  You can’t earn what you already are.


                 “There is nothing you can say or do or be that will make me love you any less.”  ~God

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Tags: Anxiety, Development, Emotional, Go, Growth, Help, Letting, Personal, Self, Stress, More…Wellness, addictions, child, esteem, inner, self


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