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It's been 6 years since you left. Funny, it doesn't seem like 6, but there it is.
You left March 5th 2004. We had my cousin's wedding to attend that night! You couldn't have picked a worse time to leave!
Of course, you weren't worried about timing.
I woke up & went into the livingroom. Grandma & the cousins were sitting around talking. It was complete numbness for everyone apparently.
Some of them were carrying out furniture, Dad included & those who weren't were sitting there talking.
I asked what was going on & you said you were leaving. I felt like I was 3 again, & semi acted like it.
I followed you & Dad around the house asking if I could help with anything. I couldn't, so I just kept wandering.
When you left Dad went with you & I thought he was crazy! Why was he helping you move out when there were other people there to help??? That wasn't his job!
But even in the end he bent over backwards for you.
You took the good furniture & allowed it to waste in Grandma's basement!
But I don't care about that.
You didn't pay child support for becca & Dad let you get away with it even though we were suffering!
But I don't care about that.
You left Dad with a $133000 loan up against the house, & now I have to pay rent!
But I don't care about that.
You blamed me for your divorce:
"Well, you're right. I'm not good enough for you or your sister or your father!"
But that only hurt a little. . .
You came into the house & attacked Dad verbally & physically, which almost lead to your demise! (Which would have left me in prison thank you!)
But that only hurts some.
You left becca & Dad in the dark! I had to carry their weight, plus my own! I had to suck in all my pain & fake my way through it!
That hurt even more.
But the worst thing you did was rip my foundation out from under me!
& that I care about! That hurt, still hurts!!!
I could say all kinds of things to you, call you a bitch & a whore for sleeping around on Dad while you were married!
But that won't solve anything.
You made me question my morals, my values! Everything I ever new, ever believed in, you broke it! You crushed it, shattered it & still that wasn't enough!
You had to jump on the shards of glass, use your heels to ground them into the floor, make them disappear! Leave them lost, unreachable to me!
& for that, I still hate you!
You left some of your clothes behind in the early days. Some of your high heeled shoes & I sat in your closet inhaling the scent from those clothes.
I held those shoes & remembered clomping around in them when I was a little girl.
You said you were sorry, but then you screamed at me to get over it!
You said if your parents divorced when you were 3 & you got over it, I could surely get over you & Dad!
But I couldn't for the longest time.
Even now I hate this house. We have a new mom, 2 new sisters, new dogs, new cats, a "new life" as it were.
But this house still holds you in it. & the house across the field where we used to live holds even more of you.
You seem to seep into everything!
Why can't you get out?? Why can't you leave me alone!!
I still cry when I hear "Family Portrait" from Pink. It's nearly unbearable listening to Evanescence's "My Immortal".
& forget Mario Whinan's & P. Diddy's "Don't Wanna Know".
I can still hear becca singing:
"Oh mommy, we don't wanna know, if you're creepin' keep it on the low, cuz our hearts just can't take it anymore!
Oh mommy, we don't wanna know."
& Britany's "Every Time" "Every time I try to fly I fall, without my wings I feel so small".
I still cry. & I could go on forever with this list, but I won't.
There was a time when every little thing reminded me that you weren't around & some days, I feel like I'm still back there.
Most days I feel ok, but the other days I don't.
I've given up talking to you, your hopeless!
You act like we should feel bad, like we're the ones who left.
Well screw you! You left us! Y.O.U. left us!
Then you got sick. Scleroderma, your going to die. Probably from the drinking & smoking first though at this rate.
Sometimes I wish you were dead, then I could pretend you really loved & missed me while you were gone, or even better, I could pretend that you never wanted to leave, that you died & that's why you left, & it wasn't your fault.
It was out of your hands. But that's not so.
I loved you. I remember your depression, I remember you crying, the rape when you were a child.
I remember all that. How could I forget?
& it's the one thing that makes it hard for me to push you completely out of my life.
I keep seeing that damned little girl! That scared, frightened, lonely little girl! & she's me! She belongs to you, but I have my own & so it makes it a million times harder for me to push it, you away!
I still hate you! But I still love you. I'll never figure out why, but I do.
You left me afraid of men, afraid I'd never gain your approval, afraid of losing your love (which I never had), afraid to love others, to let them in & take my guard down!
You left me clinging to broken blood stained memories even after everything!
You shook me when I pissed you off when I was little. You screamed at me! Tried to control my thoughts, my feelings, to speak for me!
You tried to keep me locked up with you & keep me away from other women because you were so insecure!
But I loved you! I'd have walked through fire for you! I did walk through fire for you!
We all did! Just like "My Immortal" says!
We held your hand, we wiped away your tears, we tried to fight off all your fears!
We were a family!! A FAMILY!!! & you took it away!
Divorcing Dad was one thing, but you divorced us!! We cramped your style & you visit only when it works for you! We're the last "things" to do on your "to-do" list!
You carried us! I thought that meant something! You gave birth to us! Doesn't the fact that we came out of your body, that you heard our hearts beat & counted our fingers & toes mean anything????
Some will blame it on your addiction to alcohol, but that's just a cop out! You had quit drinking & smoking for 6 years & you started back up because YOU chose to! Nobody held a gun to your head!
You wanted to be a teenager again, not that I know why, because your teenage years sucked! But you chose it!
& yet, I still have the common decency to want to make sure you're taken care of before you die.
I don't want you in a nursing home for fear they won't take care of you like I would.
I hate you for tangling me up & I hate you for jumbling all my thoughts & trying to run my life & control my relationships!
But I still love you.
I will not bow to this anymore though. So if I see you I see you & if I don't I don't.
If we talk we talk & if we don't we don't.
If you're proud of me great if not I don't care!
It may take me 6 more years to release all this agony I had to cover up while helping Dad & becca, but I'll push through it one way or another.
& once I'm gone, I'm gone. I'm not looking back & you can forget having a phone number or a forwarding address, cuz it's not happening!
My whole life you've tried to control me, break my relationships up (grandma & Dad, on the Dad score you failed, but grandma has her own bs to apologize for)!
But you can rest assured you won't do it again. I won't give you the chance.

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Comment by SG Michelle Medina on June 29, 2010 at 5:00am
Thank you. It was funny because after I wrote it I felt both like a weight had been lifted & yet the taste was bitter sweet.
But I know I'm on my way, & that's all that matters.
I'm not a little girl & I can't be hurt by these things anymore, because I have control now!
Comment by SG Michelle Medina on June 29, 2010 at 4:58am
Thank you, I truly appreciate that.
Comment by Sylvia van Bruggen on June 29, 2010 at 3:49am
Dear Lisa,

Finding healing within means you need to find the courage deep inside to let go. You just did. I am so proud of you for doing that.

Now shine, shine your light, you are SO deserving!!!
Comment by SG Michelle Medina on June 28, 2010 at 2:41pm
Thank you. I truly appreciate it.
Comment by Donna Asbury on June 28, 2010 at 8:16am
My dear- My heart hurts for you. So I am sending you positive thoughts, lots of hugs and love!
Comment by SG Michelle Medina on June 28, 2010 at 7:14am
Thank you Lissa.
Comment by Lissa Rankin, MD on June 28, 2010 at 6:54am
Dearest Michelle,
I hear you and sit silently with your story.
With love,

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