Tips For Seeing Others With Magical Eyes
One Pinkie asked for guidance in SEEing with Magical Eyes, so let's share these tips here!
I have dozens of ideas for how to see others with Magical Eyes (in fact, I'm writing a whole curriculum for Magical Eyes training, so stay tuned...) but I'd love to hear from you!
Here's one tip: Imagine that your tough-to-love Pinkie Pal is a tiny little baby. Imagine yourself as a tiny little baby. See yourself crying, needing affection, food, comfort, sleep. Allow your love to flow for this innocent helpless being that is you. Comfort the baby. Hold the baby. Now shrink down that image until it would fit in the palm of your hand and hold your hand to your heart, where you will hold this little tiny baby in your heart.
Now think of your Pinkie Pal and imagine him/her as a tiny, innocent child deserving of so much love. Imagine that the baby is crying, that he/she is hurting and just needs comfort too. You are the grown up, capable of nurturing your tiny Pinkie Pal. Let love overflow. Now visualize your Pinkie Pal baby as very tiny, fitting in the palm of your hand, and place that hand over your heart, where your Pinkie Pal baby will join the baby that is you in your heart.
Now, visualize Pink light coming out of your heart as you breath- in and out. Within the space of your heart, imagine that same Pink light radiating between you and your Pinkie Pal. Remember that your Pinkie Pal may be 45 years old and still have needs just like a baby. Gray hair doesn't change the fact that many of us hold a wounded child inside with hurts that have never healed. If we allow our wounded child to touch the wounded child in someone else, it opens us up to immense compassion.
It helps us remove blame, judgment, criticism, anger, regret, and disappointment. It helps us SEE that we are all worthy, lovable, innocent, cherished, beautiful spirits- even those of us who have made mistakes (and we ALL have). When we can see past those masks that keep us separate, we can love each other like we love babies- untarnished, freely, divinely. It doesn't mean you can't still OWN your feelings towards that person. It doesn't mean you can't feel pissed off or hurt. It just means that you will SEE the beauty within that person, which may help you get more in touch with your compassion so that you- like the Divine Being that guides us all- can love even those who are tough to love.
What works for you? Do tell....so we all might SEE better.
Loving you all,
Lissa
Loving you all,
Lissa
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Permalink Reply by Kat Caverly on -
Oh Lissa you are such a gift, and this is so much fun too. I love the whole notion and process but love the Pink light the most. I can see how this opens one up to immense compassion. Thank you.
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Permalink Reply by Lissa Rankin, MD on -
Dear Kat,
Whenever I lead groups, I always visualize a bright Pink light connecting my heart to theirs, the whole time. That way, if someone says something that bristles me the wrong way or I feel my own ego getting in the way, I can always come back to the Pink light that reminds me that I- like all of us- am merely a vessel for Divine Love. When I get my own junk out of the way, I can shine forth and see the beauty within each being. (And believe me- we are all SO beautiful!)
I SEE you Kat! -
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Permalink Reply by Caren on -
Lissa, thank you so much for writing this. I think that it was hard for me to understand this concept because I thought perhaps through this process of SEEing someone with Magical Eyes would mean not OWNING the way I feel about them. Sometimes it is hard to let go of the negative feelings I may have for a person. I need to let go of the negative feelings and just OWN how I feel about them.
Thank you for showing me a way to see the beauty in them while still being hurt by them. This person is not in my life anymore, but I can't let go of the anger I feel towards her. She was such a toxic person in my life, I just never saw that side of her. I want to SEE the woman I was friends with and not the side of her that I am left to remember.
Is it possible to SEE her with MAGICAL EYES even though she is no longer a part of my life? I ask this because I wonder if this is how I will let go of her.
Thank you for all you do, you inspire me daily.
Love and Pink Light,
Caren -
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Permalink Reply by Lissa Rankin, MD on
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Caren,
I hear what you're saying- and I'm not in any way saying "Don't feel your feelings."
Try this. You already have Magical Eyes. You've been using them here in the Pink Posse. The difference is that here- you know it's safe- and most of us, you've never met in person. It's harder to use your Magical Eyes on someone who has hurt you.
Here's another exercise. Next time you have a struggle with your Pinkie Pal, imagine that this person is actually a secret Pinkie here on the Posse, using a pseudonym. Imagine that after your struggle, this person is going to show up on the Posse and tell their story about their struggle with you. Of course, as a loving devoted member of this community, you would shower this person with love and affection, open your heart to compassion and SEE this person's beautiful spirit. You would write kind comments, offer support, maybe even say "I love you."
But remember- all along- this is your tough-to-love person. Every single one of us is a Pinkie.
You CAN do it. You can feel your feelings AND love this person.
It's possible.
Try it- report back.
Much love
Lissa -
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Permalink Reply by Stacey Curnow on -
I learned the practice that helps me the most to see with Magical Eyes in A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle: Whatever you feel someone is withholding from you, give that thing.
And you know what? No matter how negative someones behavior (betrayal, abandonment, abuse), at bottom it feels like lack of appreciation. So I try to find something to appreciate about that person.
Now that doesn't mean that I look for opportunities to rekindle a relationship with someone who hurt me, but I can choose to remember what drew me to that person, what I appreciated about him or her, in the first place. And that is where I keep my attention. And when I do this I feel so much better!
Much love,
Stacey -
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